2. Token Compromises

The practice of compromise is frequently touted as a successful strategy for maintaining harmony in relationships.  Generally defined as " a settlement of differences by mutual concessions", this practice conversely, by its very nature, compromises personal integrity and free will. In my experience compromise equates with submission. Compomise compromises the compromisers !

Now I firmly believe that as defined, it is a noble endeavour but 'mutual concession' presupposes acceptance of relational equality. Both 'compromisers' need to be happy with the concessions which from my observation is not generally the case. Generally the 'minor' accedes to the 'major' stakeholder.

I quite like the idea of alternate compromises. Both stakeholders take turns in making the choices. Each therefore has a 50% contentment rate. Then again, each person also has a 50% dissatisfaction rate.

How wonderful if it could be :
I value "you" so I don't want' you to have to make compromises on my behalf.  I'd like you to do exactly what makes you happy, and then I'll be happy.